The deepest need that each person has is for self-esteem, a sense of being
important, valuable, and worthwhile.  Everything that you do in your interactions with
others affects their self-esteem in some way. 

You already have an excellent frame of
reference to determine the things that you can do to boost the self-esteem and
therefore the sense of personal power of those around you.  Give them what you’d like
for yourself.

thanks,brain.
 

Joy in living comes from having fine emotions, trusting them, giving them the freedom of a bird in the open. Joy in living can never be assumed as a pose, or put on from the outside as a mask. People who have this joy do not need to talk about it; they radiate it. they just live out their joy and let it splash its sunlight and glow into other lives as naturally as a bird sings.
And those who have and exhibit the joy of living are never those who have been without care, sorrow, failure, disappointment, and discouragement. They are rather those who have suffered and conquered, and who are willing to bear their share of the vicissitudes of life uncomplainingly.
The joy of living never comes to the frivolous, the superficial, the selfish. We can never get it by working for it directly. It comes, like happiness, to those who are aiming at something higher. It is a by-product of great, simple living. The joy of living comes from what we put into living, not from what we seek to get from it.

thanks to A.T. Rowe.

Self-control is essential to happiness and usefulness. It is the master of all the virtues, and has its root in self-respect. Let a man yield to his impulses and passions, and from that moment he gives up his moral freedom.
It is the self-discipline of a man that enables him to pursue success with superior diligence and sobriety. Many of the great characters in his illustrate this trait. In ordinary life the application is the same. He who would lead must first command himself. The time of test is when everybody is excited or angry, then the well-balanced mind comes to the front.
There is a very special demand for the cultivation of this trait at present. The young men who rush into business with no good education or drill will do poor and feverish work. Endurance is a much better test of character than act of heroism.
A fair amount of self-examination is good. Self-knowledge is a preface to self-control. Too much self-inspection leads to morbidness; too little conducts to careless and hasty action. There are two things which will surely strengthen our self-control. One is attention to conscience; the other is a spirit of good will. The man who would succeed in any great undertaking must hold all his faculties under perfect control; they must be disciplined and drilled until they quickly and cheerfully obey the will.

Ignorance is not bliss it is oblivion

Philip Wylie, Generation of Vipers, 1942